How’s Married Life: The Name Change, Joint Bank Account & Everything In Between


How’s married life treating you? I feel like someone asks me this question at least once a week. We’re still married, so that’s a good sign, right? I mean, I’m no marriage expert, but we’ve lasted longer than Kim Kardashian’s 72-day nuptials, so I must be doing something right.

Tomorrow marks our 6-month wedding anniversary, so I wanted to share my thoughts on marriage thus far, and my tips for any soon-to-be wives.


What’s The Same:

Honestly, married life really doesn’t feel that different. Ryan and I have lived together for a few years, so we’ve already learned how to live with each others daily habits. For anyone who hasn’t lived with a significant other, but is thinking of making the move, here’s my advice: be patient.

Trust me, we all have annoying habits, but sometimes it can take awhile to break them. For example, I’ve been telling Ryan to keep the closet door closed for months so our puppy won’t get into anything. Well, if you saw our Instagram story on Tuesday, our pup found his way into the closet (via the open closet door… thanks Ryan) and tore apart my new blue Sam Edelman sandals. Don’t worry, the hubby is replacing them – and they’re actually on sale now, available here! Moral of the story, be patient..

What’s Different:

The bank account…. Yeah, that was a big change. We combined our bank accounts, and let’s just say, Ryan doesn’t share my appreciation for shopping. At first he was soooo annoying about my spending habits. Sorry, I like Nordstrom and Starbucks, but that’s not going to change. But like everyone says, marriage is about compromise. So I stopped spending as much, (HAH!) no really, I did cut back on my impulsive purchases. And he learned that I’m going to buy things whether he likes it or not.

The Name Change:

The name change was really a big adjustment for me. (It doesn’t help that my name is now, Mikki Hickey…) But I really didn’t realize how much work it would be to legally change your name. I do a lot of traveling for work, and a month after the wedding I had to fly down to Mexico on business. That being said, to get my passport in time, I had to get my name changed right away.

I did quite a bit of research and decided to try out one of the name change websites. After reading reviews, I decided to use Hitch Switch, and it literally made my life so much easier. I bought the platinum package, which is $89, and it includes your new passport photo as well. You plug in all of your information online, and they mail you all the forms that you will need to change your name.

I ordered everything a month before the wedding date. Once we got married, I just had to sign the forms and submit the paperwork. I had my new social security card, license, and passport within 2 weeks of the wedding date.


Best Part of Marriage:

Honestly, not being engaged has been the best part of marriage for me. Don’t get me wrong, I think getting engaged is an amazing time in your life. However, it’s incredibly stressful. Ryan and I used to get in arguments about the dumbest things for the wedding, and it’s so nice to have that all behind us. Now we literally just get to enjoy each other without stressing about bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, and of course the big day. (If you haven’t read the details from our wedding, read the full post, here!)

What’s Surprised Me The Most:

Our wedding was literally incredible, and it’s a little sad that it’s over, but these last six months have really surprised me. It hasn’t been all sunshine and rainbows, but we’ve laughed a lot. I think that’s the most important part; as long as we laugh, and make it a priority, (not just be great spouses, but to be best friends) married life will treat us just fine.

Share your marriage advice with us in the comments below!


12 thoughts on “How’s Married Life: The Name Change, Joint Bank Account & Everything In Between

  1. Happy 6 months! The first year of marriage was way better for me than engagement too! It’s just good to be together:)
    Thank you so much, Ellie:)

  2. Congrats on your six months! So fun to read how you experienced it. It’s so different in the Netherlands, I just had to fill out one form for my name (but I only added his last name to mine). Love the photos of the both of you and your shoes are amazing!!
    XX Lara

    1. It’s definitely a process! Hopefully this post helped a bit if you decide to in the future. Thanks so much for reading!! <3

  3. Congratulations you two! 💕
    My advised is this:
    “You got married 6 months ago,
    You have to choose to stay married everyday! ”
    Lots of love!

  4. Love this post so much. I will be getting married to my high school sweetheart in July and will be picking up and moving from Dallas to Boston. Eeep. It’s reassuring to hear that you like the marriage better than the engagement… people don’t truly realize how many arguments stem from wedding planning!

    I will be hyphenating my last name so I’m not sure if I’ll have to go through all the stress of changing the name or not, but if so, then I will definitely keep ‘Hitch Switch’ in mind!

    Thanks again!

  5. I am recently engaged and we are moving in together in the summer, so I really enjoyed reading everything you had to say! I am nervous about combining our bank accounts for the same reason you listed! On top of that, my fiancé never buys anything for himself…like nothing…so I’m worried I will feel guilty for even buying a Starbucks or getting a manicure lol. I guess it will take some compromise and adjustment like you said. Thanks for sharing your tips!

    xo, Taylor

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